Proverbs 25-29: Wisdom in Friendship {Week 8}

A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver. Like a gold ring or an ornament of gold is a wise reprover to a listening ear. – Proverbs 25:11-12

Don’t we all wish to be the deliverers of words fitly spoken and wisdom to listening ears? Yet how will we become that kind of messenger unless we study the very words of wisdom written by the inventor of wisdom in the book of Proverbs?

May we begin this week with the introspection and humility required for heart change. May we continue with the discipline and commitment it takes to live a life that pleases God.

Lord, open our hearts to your words. May they sink in deeply and change us from the inside.

Click the link below to watch this week’s message on our words and friendship.

Proverbs 22-24: The Way of Wisdom Panel {Week 7}

This week we had a panel of women discuss multiple topics we have covered in Proverbs:



Money & Debt



Work/Life Balance

Sexuality & Purity

While there are certainly more topics we could’ve covered and definitely ran out of time for all of the questions submitted, we hope you are able to glean some wisdom from the panels.

AM Panel (Molly DeFrank, Cori Derksen, Jenny Ratzlaff, Tammy Daily, Valerie Watts)


PM Panel (Ashley Ploen, Rose Torres, Melissa Costa, Ashley Berry, Lisa Roberts)

Proverbs 16-21: The Way of Wisdom- Surrender {Week 6}

While traveling through Israel, following behind a Hebrew tour guide who had walked this road many times, we were anxious to see where he was taking us. The road was unfamiliar to us, but he knew it like the back of his hand. We walked with him, followed, and listened to his instruction. As we went, we had to trust where and how he was leading us. Sometimes the walking led us to shade and water, and when you are in the 120-degree Middle East desert, nothing is more refreshing.

Once in a while, he would walk on paths that made us frustrated or nervous. We were confused and were not given much explanation. At other times, the road led us to the most amazing sights or ruins that were being excavated. Occasionally, he led us right up to enemy territory, where we stood inches away from a border, looking out to tanks and military watching our every move.

Solomon is leading and guiding us in a similar way through these chapters of Proverbs. It feels like we are on a walking tour with a guide who knows his way around the back roads, has lived more life than we have, and has learned some lessons the hard way. Though we may be confused by where he is going or think there seems to be no rhyme or reason to his sayings, he is leading us to see God and know wisdom in a new way.

There are parts of these lessons that seem to speak to the simple and mundane parts of life, while others speak to deeper things like death and destruction. Some of these proverbs from the wise, old sage are direct and repetitive, while others are refreshing and encouraging. With others, you may have to dig for meaning and understanding. Either way, stay close, keep your notebook out, and keep a mirror out, too, for self-reflection.

Proverbs 10-15: The Way of Wisdom-Righteousness {Week 5}

These first few weeks of studying Proverbs has really been about nine chapters of warning. The main warning has been regarding why we need wisdom and what we need to run away from in order to stay the course. We will now shift into the section of the book that comprises actual proverbs—the short, pithy, punchy sayings we tend to be more familiar with. You will need your chart from pages 291-294 handy each day, as we will begin to fill in what this book has to say regarding specific themes or topics in skillful living.

It will be tempting as we study actual proverbs to see a list of ways we need to change or improve, a way to be more moral or righteous. However, the danger in studying proverbs is that we become more moral, but not more in love with Jesus. Or we become more disciplined and righteous, but not because it’s the righteousness of Christ in us, working through us.

The last thing we want after this study is a bunch of moral, self-righteous people. We want people who walk in the way of wisdom because Christ’s love flows through them and His Spirit works in them. So as you study these proverbs, be sure to do so not in your own strength or for self-righteousness, but do so in the strength of the Spirit because Christ’s righteousness is already in you.

Proverbs 8-9: Wisdom Personified {Week 4}

In these final two chapters of the long introduction of this book (Proverbs 1-9), we find the father’s final plea to his son to marry wisdom: follow wisdom, listen to wisdom, to choose the path of wisdom. These chapters show us 4 things about wisdom:

The Appeal of Wisdom

The Attraction of Wisdom

The Origin of Wisdom

The Fullness of Wisdom

Does not wisdom call?
     Does not understanding raise her voice?
On the heights beside the way,
    at the crossroads she takes her stand;
beside the gates in front of the town,
    at the entrance of the portals she cries aloud:
“To you, O men, I call,
    and my cry is to the children of man.
O simple ones, learn prudence;
    O fools, learn sense.
Hear, for I will speak noble things,
    and from my lips will come what is right,
for my mouth will utter truth;
    wickedness is an abomination to my lips.
All the words of my mouth are righteous;
    there is nothing twisted or crooked in them.
They are all straight to him who understands,
    and right to those who find knowledge.
10 Take my instruction instead of silver,
    and knowledge rather than choice gold,
11 for wisdom is better than jewels,
    and all that you may desire cannot compare with her.

12 “I, wisdom, dwell with prudence,
    and I find knowledge and discretion.
13 The fear of the Lord is hatred of evil.
Pride and arrogance and the way of evil
    and perverted speech I hate.
14 I have counsel and sound wisdom;
    I have insight; I have strength.
15 By me kings reign,
    and rulers decree what is just;
16 by me princes rule,
    and nobles, all who govern justly.[a]
17 I love those who love me,
    and those who seek me diligently find me.
18 Riches and honor are with me,
    enduring wealth and righteousness.
19 My fruit is better than gold, even fine gold,
    and my yield than choice silver.
20 I walk in the way of righteousness,
    in the paths of justice,
21 granting an inheritance to those who love me,
    and filling their treasuries.

22 “The Lord possessed[b] me at the beginning of his work,[c]
    the first of his acts of old.
23 Ages ago I was set up,
    at the first, before the beginning of the earth.
24 When there were no depths I was brought forth,
    when there were no springs abounding with water.
25 Before the mountains had been shaped,
    before the hills, I was brought forth,
26 before he had made the earth with its fields,
    or the first of the dust of the world.
27 When he established the heavens, I was there;
    when he drew a circle on the face of the deep,
28 when he made firm the skies above,
    when he established[d] the fountains of the deep,
29 when he assigned to the sea its limit,
    so that the waters might not transgress his command,
when he marked out the foundations of the earth,
30     then I was beside him, like a master workman,
and I was daily his[e] delight,
    rejoicing before him always,
31 rejoicing in his inhabited world
    and delighting in the children of man.

32 “And now, O sons, listen to me:
    blessed are those who keep my ways.
33 Hear instruction and be wise,
    and do not neglect it.
34 Blessed is the one who listens to me,
    watching daily at my gates,
    waiting beside my doors.
35 For whoever finds me finds life
    and obtains favor from the Lord,
36 but he who fails to find me injures himself;
    all who hate me love death.”

Proverbs 5-7: Wisdom in Times of Temptation {Week 3}

After our first week of study, we should be left with the overwhelming realization of our need for wisdom. This week, we will be left with our need for wisdom in times of temptation. We will explore the intense warnings a father gives to his son about being aware of adultery. He will sneak in some practical warnings in Proverbs 6, but these chapters overwhelmingly warn of adultery. These chapters will highlight the type of man lured by the forbidden woman, a description of this adulteress, what to look for, and the destruction, devastation and ultimate death that adultery brings.

It may seem strange that after four chapters of telling us why we need wisdom for life, the author would jump right into writing almost three chapters on adultery. But remember, the father writing these proverbs to his son is trying to get his son to marry wisdom over folly and to seek the Lord over passions of the flesh. Chapters on adultery following chapters regarding the pursuit of wisdom may seem like a strange contrast, but that is because the quickest, easiest and most devastating way to take us off the path of wisdom is to lure us into a path of sexual immorality. Sexual immorality—and specifically adultery—destroys your marriage, your family, your friendships, and ultimately, your relationship with God. These warnings are given so early on in life to prevent the kind of devastation it will bring.

Although this is written as a father to his son, these proverbs are true for daughters of God too. In fact, many of you working through these chapters this week have been affected by adultery.

These chapters may stir up wounds from the past or even the present. Be sure to give yourself grace this week. If you need time to process or someone to process with, reach out to a friend, your leader, or even someone in our Counseling Center. We hope this awakens your heart and leads you on the path toward healing.

Proverbs 1-4: The Beginning of Wisdom {Week 2}

“We are all being discipled by something.”

This quote I heard years ago stuck with me and helped me see I was being influenced and taught by so many things around me, some of which I wasn’t even aware. To be discipled means to be a learner and follower of a master teacher, watching his or her ways and listening to his or her teaching. By doing so, you are so influenced by his or her life that you begin to look like, act like, think like, and speak like the teacher you are following.

What are some of the things influencing you right now? What are some of the things or some of the people you are learning from? We are inundated with information, opinions, and messages daily by TV shows, commercials, celebrities, social media, bloggers, authors, artists, politicians, friends, neighbors, pastors, etc. There are so many voices speaking into our lives, influencing us, slowly changing our thinking or perspective—discipling us.

Over time, these voices can become louder than the voice that matters most: the voice of God.

Who do you listen to?
Who do you follow?
Who are you influenced by?
Is the Word of God the loudest voice in your life right now?

This week, we’ll look at the beginning of wisdom. We will learn how we can begin to have our thoughts shaped by the voice that matters most and redirect the alignment of our hearts to the Lord.